Which Love Languages Is Yours? Here Is an Introduction to the 5 of Them

The concept of the five love languages was developed by Gary Chapman, Ph.D. in his book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to the Love That Lasts. In this book, Chapman describes the five unique styles of communicating love – all gathered from his experience in marriage counseling and linguistics. The languages boil down to the five different ways of expressing and receiving love.

By discovering you and your partner’s primary love language, you’ll complete the puzzle in understanding one another needs and be able to better support each other’s growth. Stick around while we break down the 5 love languages below!

Words of Affirmation - people, who respond to the love language of verbal affirmation, adore frequent acknowledgments of spoken affection. If this is your partner’s love language, they will respond well to compliments, words of appreciation, verbal encouragement, and frequent “I love yous.” If you’re not around, be sure to send them plenty of text messages and social media engagement throughout the day.

Acts of Service - If your love language is acts of service, you value when your partner goes out of their way to make your life a little easier. Whether it’s making your coffee in the morning, washing your car, or finishing off a loaf of laundry, their actions speak louder than words and prove their love. Big or small, acts of service go a long way in showing dedication, appreciation, and love.

Quality Time - Quality time means that your partner will feel as if they’re walking in the sunshine whenever you want to actively spend time with them. In these moments, they need your undivided attention – without the distraction of your smartphone, Netflix, or any outside interference. They particularly love active listening, eye contact, and full presence in meaningful conversations or recreational activities.

Touch - As a fairly self-explanatory love language, people with touch as their love language often feel over the moon about physical signs of affection, such as kissing, cuddling, holding hands, and more. For them, physical intimacy can be an incredibly powerful indicator of their partner’s love for them. Plus, it’s a powerful emotional connector for both parties involved.

Gifts - Like touch, gifts are a fairly straight-forward love language. According to Chapman, these people will feel appreciated when you give them “visual symbols of love.” It’s not as much about the monetary value of the gift, as it’s about the symbolic thought behind the item. Those with this style of love language realize the careful reflection, deliberate choosing, and emotional benefits of a present.

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